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This poem is
dedicated to all whose
hearts have being torn
deeply by their children,
family or friends. Hurt by those who
have been wrongly influenced, fall or are deeply troubled...
Lost Children
by: Rose Meri Charron
©copyright 2009
Each day, a miracle of life happens,
It makes us all feel ecstatic and glad,
But that gift can sometimes become immoral and soiled,
Break
your heart, make you angry, numb and sad.
They're taught to be considerate and have compassion,
To be honest, decent,
show love and respect,
Not to be bullies or belligerent to others,
A dark side that their peers would never expect.
In choosing this way of feeling important,
A life with no value is the message
it sends,
Only loneliness, heartache and bitterness will follow
With the loss of all their family and friends.
_______________________________
"I hope and pray with all my heart that I can some day redeem
my faith in humanity and that there will be some basic, fundamental rules to life and personal relationships and that the
poised will be victorious over the tacky abusive bullies of the world! It is too bad and very shameful. Unfortunately, I have
to say that there are some people like this even in my family with a whole lot of ugly going on."
When family members or friends constantly do hateful deeds or
deliberately hurt others, I do believe we should still love and forgive them. But, does that mean you have to like their sick
behavior or even associate with these people? Where do you draw the line? I feel that those who close their eyes to people
like this and don't stand up to them are only condoning them and they continue to harm people over and over again....Rosebeary
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Bridezilla definition:
A spoiled and self centered
bride-to-be who focuses so much on herself and becomes a bully, difficult, unpleasant, hurtful, verbally abusive,
greedy, selfish, rude and an obnoxious b_tch. They lie and disregard the feelings of family and friends including the groom
in their quest.
Etymology:
A blend of bride and Godzilla, the destructive dinosaur like monster.
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Bully definition:
Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive
behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual
behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person. Behaviors may include name calling, verbal or written abuse,
exclusion from activities, exclusion from social situations, physical abuse, or coercion. Bullies may behave this way to be
perceived as popular or tough or to get attention and also bully because of jealousy. Adults who bully have personalities
that are authoritarian, combined with a strong need to control or dominate. Bullying can also be used as a tool to conceal
shame or anxiety or to boost self esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser him/herself feels empowered and superior. Those
who bully for others are just as much at fault. Some bullies are cowards and need other bullies to finish what they start.
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Bullying in the family:
A favourite tactic of the bully in the family is to set people against
each other. The benefits to the bully are that:
a) the bully gains a great deal of gratification (a perverse form
of satisfaction) from encouraging and provoking argument, quarrelling and hostility, and then from watching others engage
in adversarial interaction and destructive conflict, and
b) the ensuing conflict ensures that people's attention is distracted
and diverted away from the cause of the conflict.
Bullies within the family, especially female bullies, are masters
(mistresses?) of manipulation and are fond of manipulating people through their emotions (eg guilt) and through their beliefs,
attitudes and perceptions. Bullies see any form of vulnerability as an opportunity for manipulation, and are especially prone
to exploiting those who are most emotionally needy. Elderly relatives, those with infirmity, illness, those with the greatest
vulnerability, or those who are emotionally needy or behaviourally immature family members are likely to be favourite targets
for exploitation..
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The serial bully is easy to spot once you know what you are looking
at: Jekyll and Hyde nature, compulsive lying, manipulation (or emotions, perceptions, beliefs, etc), unpredictability, deception,
denial, arrogance, narcissism, attention-seeking, etc - whilst always charming and plausible, especially when impressionable
witnesses are present. Everybody knows someone in their life with this profile - who is it in your life?
Serial bullies can be male or female - the main difference is that
female bullies are more devious, more manipulative, more cunning, more sly, more psychological, more subtle, leave less evidence
and will often bully with a smile. Female bullies will often manipulate a male into committing their violence for them. Male
bullies tend to be less subtle, have a tendency towards physical aggression, and are generally less clever than female bullies.
Females often display a greater tendency towards attention seeking behaviours. Female serial bullies are, in general, much
more dangerous than their male counterparts.
The objectives of serial bullies are Power, Control, Domination and
Subjugation. Control is a common indicator of the serial bully at home - control of finances, control of movements, control
over choice of friends, control of the right to work, control over what to think, and so on. All are designed to disempower.
Bullies are adept at distorting peoples' perceptions with intent
to engender a negative view of their target in the minds of family members, neighbours, friends and people in positions of
officialdom and authority; this is achieved through undermining, the creation
of doubts and suspicions, and the sharing
of false concerns, etc. This poisoning of people's minds is difficult to counter, however explaining the game in a calm articulate
manner helps people to see through the mask of deceit and to understand how and why they are being used as pawns.
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